Are you coming or going?
I have a favorite childhood memory where I don’t remember the details, but I’ve always recalled the lesson. My dad and I were standing in front of the movie theater box office. I couldn’t have been more than 10 years old. My sisters and my mom were at the parking lot across the street. I raised my voice and waved to them so they could see us in the crowd.
“Go here!” I said.
My dad said to me, “That’s not right. It’s ‘come here.’ They’re over there and they have to come here. Or you go there.”
I was embarrassed that I had shouted some bad grammar for people around to hear.
“Come here!” I called out. (I must’ve always liked to edit myself.)
And from that simple exchange, somehow my dad burned in my mind that the point of reference for using these two verbs is yourself. Others come toward you, whether they cross a physical distance or decide to join you or your group. Conversely, you go to them.
Are you coming with us as we go to the movie?